Dating Survey Reveals 'The New Cougars'

Older women reject sugar mama stereotype and rewrite rules on cougar dating

A host of popular myths about cougars – older women who exclusively date younger men - have been exposed in a ground-breaking survey by dating website Cougared.com.

A poll of more than 100 self-proclaimed “cougars” has revealed that the clichéd image of the older woman who prowls hotel bars and nightclubs for younger men represents a small minority in 2009.

According to the Cougar Report, the 'New Cougars' have moved on from the trendy bar-hopping ways of Samantha from 'Sex and the City or man-eating Stifler's mom from 'American Pie'.

Rather than a night out at a glitzy cocktail bar or nightclub, the research revealed that the ideal date for a modern cougar woman is actually a cosy local restaurant or a home cooked meal; emphasizing a strong desire for romance as well as 'no strings fun'.

And younger men who are looking for a sugar mama better not go “cougar hunting” because it turns out that most cougars either let the man pay for dinner or insist on splitting the check; perhaps a handy way to filter out the gold diggers and 'players'.

Some key findings from the Cougar Report 2009:

•52% of cougars are in their 40s, and their ideal younger man is aged 24-27
•76% of cougars are either divorced or separated
•44% of older women were kept secret from their younger man's family
•45% are 'lifestyle cougars', having dated more than five younger men

The research also discovered why older men are no longer attractive to cougars – and guess what? It's not the beer belly that really puts them off, it's a jaded attitude and emotional baggage. It seems that younger men are offering the New Cougars a way to recapture their carefree youth.

What's more, far from simply seeking a casual encounter, the vast majority of modern cougar women are seeking a longer term relationship with a younger man – possibly inspired by the example of celebrity couple Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher.

Oliver Jameson, founder of dating site Cougared.com explained why they created the Cougar Report said:

“There are a lot of myths around about cougar women and their attitudes
to men and dating. One interesting aspect of this research is the discovery that women may be comfortable with the term cougar but they are also redefining it.

“Just because they are older and may have more cash that the guy they are dating, new cougar women are demanding that men pay their way and treat them with the same degree of courtesy and chivalry that younger ladies would expect.

“At Cougared.com, we felt it was about time someone got to the truth so that older women who date younger men are more accurately represented. Hopefully it will also help the guys get a better understanding of how to relate to them.”

For the full details of the Cougar Report, visit the website at
http://www.cougared.com/report

Notes:

- Cougared.com is a 100% free dating website exclusively for older women and younger men. The site was founded in October 2007 and has in excess of 24,000 members.

- The Cougar Report survey was an invite-only poll conducted online of more than 100 women predominantly aged 35 to 60 who stated that they only or mainly date significantly younger men.

For more information on the Cougar Report or Cougared.com, please contact
Oliver Jameson at oliver@cougared.com or +447813 062 231.

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“It’s Just Lunch” and American Way In Flight Magazine Reveal That When It Comes to Dating, There’s Little Time To Make A Good Impression

66% Decide in First Half Hour Whether They Will See Other Person Again; 25% of Respondents Have Met Someone They Were Interested in Dating on an Airplane

SAN DIEGO, CA (September 16, 2009) – Recently-polled readers of American Way, the in flight magazine of American Airlines say that when on a first date, 66% of them will decide in just a half hour whether they will see the other person again. Sixteen percent say they make the decision in the first five minutes, and another five percent of total respondents know “immediately.”

The survey, conducted jointly by the magazine and specialty dating service It’s Just Lunch, found that 22% of the respondents would give the other person a bit more time - one hour, total. Only 13% of respondents would give their date more than one hour to make the cut for the second date.

Particularly speedy was the 21-39 year old sub-set of survey-takers, a full 20% of whom need only 5 minutes. The 40-49 year olds are slightly more patient, with 33% allowing their dates more than one hour to make a second date-worthy first impression. Keeping things balanced, however, was the fact that the men and women seemed to take about the same amount of time to size each other up.

It’s Just Lunch President, Irene LaCota, finds these results interesting, but not surprising. “Especially in today’s society, we’re so used to both demanding and getting instant information, that we’ve become a bit impatient and closed off, sometimes to our own detriment,” she said.

What factors are these singles taking into consideration during that time period, which might sway them in one direction or another? The majority of respondents - 54% - cited “No physical attraction.” “Lack of personality” was selected by 48% of respondents; “Boring conversation” by 46%; “No shared interests” by 39%; and “Different outlook on life” by 38%.

Once they had made it to the second date, respondents varied on how many additional dates they would need before they could tell if the other was “right” for them. For the majority of respondents, 62%, that determination was made in 2-4 dates. 16% knew after only one date. Thirteen percent gave it 5-7 dates; 3% 8-10 dates; and for 6% it took more than 10 dates. Interestingly, the number of people who needed “more than 10 dates” increased steadily as respondents got older, ranging from 4% for the 21-29 year olds to 15% of the respondents who were over 60.

A date’s income – a topic that It’s Just Lunch doesn’t feel should be a factor before a first date – was, for the purposes of this survey, “Somewhat important” to 56% of respondents. Fourteen percent of total respondents said it was “Very important” and only 16% considered it “Not important at all.” Interestingly, a full 76% of women said that income was “somewhat” to “very” important, as compared to only 42% of men.

Additional findings from the 2009 IJL/American Way magazine survey include:

On average, how many dates do you go on per year? The majority, 37% of respondents reported going on 1-5 dates annually. Twenty-three percent went on 6-10, 19% on 11-25, and 9% on over 25 dates per year. Twelve percent of respondents reported that they did not date at all.

How do you typically meet dates? When asked by IJL and American Way how they typically meet dates, only 14% of respondents are meeting at a restaurant or bar. A full 21% met through a dating service, compared to the 27% who met online. Other reported ways of meeting included through a friend or family member (38%), at work or through colleagues (20%), and through a shared hobby (15%).

Which statement sums up your dating beliefs most accurately? When asked by American Way and It’s Just Lunch about their dating beliefs, 81% felt there were many potential matches they could be happy with. Nineteen percent, on the other hand, reported “there is one true love for each person in the world.”

What is the most difficult thing about dating? Fifty-two percent of passengers responding to the It’s Just Lunch/American Way poll said the most difficult thing about dating was meeting a person they were compatible with. Thirty-six percent cited meeting other singles as their challenge. Nine percent reported that it was simply hard to find time in their schedule.

Since this survey was taken by passengers of American Airlines, 25% of respondents replied that they had met someone they might be interested in dating on an airplane.

LaCota summed up the survey this way: “When it comes to dating, we may all want to try to slow things down, relax some of our rules, and give people a bit of a chance before we come to a final conclusion about them. Life has a way of pleasantly surprising you if you are patient.”

About the Survey

The It’s Just Lunch/American Way magazine survey of 2,772 respondents was conducted online, from May 1, 2009 through June 30, 2009.

About It’s Just Lunch

It's Just Lunch is a specialized dating service for busy singles. IJL’s first date specialists save busy singles from the frustration of having to search through seas of online profiles, or play endless e-mail tag. The company, which has arranged more than two million first dates in the past 18 years, handles everything in a personalized and efficient manner – from finding the right matches to making all the arrangements for a date, at a nice location for lunch, brunch or after-work drinks. It's Just Lunch was founded in 1991 and has grown to service over 150 cities within the U.S. and internationally, and has many wonderful success stories. For more information, please visit www.itsjustlunch.com.

About American Way magazine

American Way Magazine is the award-winning in flight magazine of American Airlines and American Eagle Airlines.

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The author says her book, “The Victor: A Tale of Betrayal, Love, and Sacrifice,” was inspired by biblical themes.

“I saw the epic battle between good and evil as described in the pages of the Bible in the form of a medieval fantasy-fiction story with a knight in ‘shining armor’ and a black knight crossing swords over the ‘bride,’” she explains.

Giron has teamed up with illustrator Cindy Jordan, who painted the construction mural for the Mission Viejo Public Library and is currently creating artwork for the Mission Viejo Public Library Book Festival scheduled for this September. “The Victor” will be featured at the Book Festival, where both Giron and Jordan will be signing copies.

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PublicBookshelf has acquired the Digital Rights to Shades of Deception

Imagine lonely people searching for love, romance or a life time partner on an online dating site, at a social function, through a pen pal service, on a social network or through a chance meeting and believe they have found true love and happiness, only to discover that they have been deceived by heartless con artists.

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The characters are as dynamic as the stories themselves. Enoff is a business owner who is eager to find someone. Passion, a pastry chef always sees the good in people. Marsha is the devoted and clueless wife. Tawney, a computer developer plans to marry a man she has only known for 24 hours. Shaun, an ordained marriage and wedding officiant longs to find a woman with whom to share his accomplishments. Lea, the caterer, sets out to take her best friend’s man. Mark, the well respected and retired math teacher will soon become the subject of scandal in his community. Kamani, a thriving business owner thinks going the distance to find someone is the answer. Nia, a top negotiator at a major New York brokerage firm thinks the men she keeps meeting are boring, and Jamo, a cunning college student, is about to obtain a large trust fund, which he will never get to enjoy.

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Ms. Neal is not new to writing. Her first book, Making Dollar$ And Cent$ Out Of Online Dating was released in the summer of 2008 and is now sold and distributed worldwide. In March 2009, the book ranked 250 in sales on Lulu.com. She continues to write short stories and articles on love, romance, dating and relationships, and on other significant topics. Two of her short stories appear on Short Fiction and Bibliofaction. She has also been featured on Solo Spotlight on SingleEdition.

You can sample or read the book in its entirety, by going to Public Bookshelf or you can order the printed book from this site.


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